Before You Start Planning the Bachelorette...

You or your friend may have been thinking about the bachelorette for ten seconds or ten years, but before you jump into planning, the three things you need to consider:

  1. What are your main objectives for the weekend? To get all your friends together? To relax? To party? Think this through and set expectations appropriately for your guests. But be thoughtful about what your friends will enjoy. They're making an effort to be there, so show them that you are glad they came.
  2. How much are guests actually comfortable spending? (This may mean that you need to put two and two together. Some of your friends will not want to admit they don't have $1k to spend on this weekend, but you'll probably know if it's true.) And if that means a Vegas blow-out is out of reach for the people you love, what's your back-up plan? We hear Atlantic City is lovely this time of year ...
  3. What are your boundaries for the activities? And who's going to be there? What you might do with just your sorority sisters who know you well might be very different from what you want to do if your future sisters-in-law are coming too (or not. Depends!)

The most important thing to remember (for everyone. Guests can be divas too!): this is supposed to be a fun celebration. Things might go wrong--the food might not be perfect, you may not end up at the best bar or club--but as long as you're with friends you care about, even getting kicked off a plane or missing teeth and facial tattoos will be a funny story to tell your grandchildren someday while your children cringe.