#TuesdayTips: Getting to Know You

With most bachelor/ette getaway weekends or parties, there's a high likelihood that some of you won't know each other well (or at all). So what can you do before the weekend to ensure that everyone, from the wallflowers to the exhibitionists, gets along and has a good time? We're digging back into lessons learned at work and b school to help:

  • Know the players. In your chats with the bride or groom, get background beyond an email address and phone number for each of the attendees. How do they did they become friends with the bride/groom? What are they like? What do they enjoy doing? What kinds of things are they good at? (You can put creative people to work on fun swag and organized people on making sure there's transportation and food!)
  • Find points of commonality. People tend to like people who are like them. This is why we knew sports scores when we were working in bro-y offices. Luckily, you all already have one thing in common: your friend. That's a common focus point but there are likely to be others. If you're gotten a sense of the crowd, you can start to hone in on these common factors and find links between some of the people who don't know each other yet. Try matching up people who would get along well on specific small tasks ahead of the weekend. (But avoid putting flaky people with super dedicated ones. It will just be frustrating. Give flaky people tasks that don't matter much.)
  • Test the waters. Like you would for a new person you were working with, give everyone small tasks (filling in a google form/ spreadsheet with contact info, sending ideas for what to do). Include at least one personality-revealing question (favorite drink and why? If you were a party, what would it be? Describe yourself in three words, etc.). Not everyone will love doing it, but it helps people open up. (If you need to, make sure it gets off to the right start by doing it yourself and having your mutual friends add on before it goes to the wider group.) (You'll also get a sense of who is flaky!)
  • Be efficient. Even the nicest people get annoyed when you waste their time, which sets the wrong tone. Try to limit the number of interactions that require input (e.g., buying t-shirts? Ask for t-shirt size in the initial contact info form) and keep everything in one central place for people to access.

Any tips to add? Let us know in the comments or hello@mybestfriendsweekend.com!