Our favorite blogger is back! Bach Beb on how to throw a destination bachelorette (without wanting to tear your hair out):
Planning anything for a group is a tricky business. Add in the words "destination," "bachelorette," and "party," and you, my friend, are now walking an especially thin line. Even leaving negotiations around dates, location, and theme aside, there's a lot to consider when planning a destination bachelorette party. Just like the wedding itself, though, planning a bachelorette party is only as complicated as you make it.
Whether you're getting hitched yourself or you're planning for a friend, you'll want to make sure you've got your ducks in a row before you start firing off save-the-date emails to cousins and college roommates four states away ... take it from someone who learned the hard way. As a former bachelorette and current bachelorette weekend planner, I have a little experience in this area, and I've got a few tips to help you get started.
Talk to the group, not just the bride-to-be. If your bride is itching to break in a black Herve Leger dress, it's safe to say Vegas is more her style than Nashville. But before you have "Weekend in Vegas" invites printed, consider where everyone will be coming from and how easy it is to get there. I would have loved nothing more than a bachelorette party in Charleston, but with girls coming from three states it would have cost everyone an arm and a leg to get there. Keep in mind that some destinations only have small regional airports, meaning you could be looking at rental cars and pricier airfare.
Set guest expectations. Once you get the final guest list back from the bride, the bachelorette weekend spotlight is on you, baby. If you ever needed to channel your inner cheerleading captain, this is the time. Chances are, as Head Bachelorette Organizer, you'll be reaching out to different friend groups, so make sure that all the different contingents are excited about the prospect of a girls' weekend! And also let them know how much to expect to pay (overestimate always!) to avoid unpleasant surprises later.
Give some guidelines. Headed to Napa for a day of wine tasting? Hitting a yoga retreat? Staking out some prime beach real estate? Make sure to let the group know what sort of events are planned for the weekend so they can pack accordingly. The difference between a bachelorette party to remember and "meh" could be as small as letting everyone know that the 80s theme is mandatory Saturday night attire. Take it from someone who knows, it's tough to find a neon one-piece swimsuit and acid wash shorts on 12 hours notice.
Get some help. (Shameless plug for my favorite bachelorette planners.) Swamped with work? In the midst of wedding planning yourself? Juggling a teething baby? Or just need an extra hand to coordinate? Hand over the details to someone else and concern yourself with the important stuff--hyping up the weekend, keeping the group up-to-date, and giving some wardrobe guidance. For all the other details -- from hotel recommendations to dinner reservations to transportation -- leave it to My Best Friend's Weekend. They know their stuff.
Peace, love, and champs!